April 14, 2018

Relationships are a gold mine, and sometimes we have to go “underground and into the darkness” to find the gold. 

As we learn to recognise what the gold is, (more of this later) the obstacles and the challenges that stop us getting the gold our relationship can be smoo...

April 3, 2018

how fighting for something can destroy what you want and how to get more of what you want

February 27, 2018

When I mention bullying what I mean is the consistent behavior that creates powerlessness and destruction of self worth that leads to health issues – especially auto-immune disorders and often weight issues.

Bullying – to me - is any word or behavior that:

  • Puts anoth...

August 29, 2017

Created in love

Carried, in love, in fear, in turmoil

In sorrow, in pain, in joy and grief

In excitement and sadness,

In despair and delight.

Birthed in awe, trepidation,

Joy, love, delight and fear.

Emotions and feelings of those who gifted me life

Are imprinted deep within t...

July 30, 2017

The Cloak of Shame - It’s all torture, headaches, torment, an aching pit in the gut, judgement, criticism, blame, regret, shame and a poisonous self-hate.

Shame causes us to

  • devalue ourselves

  • devalue others

create situations and circumstances that keep pro...

July 17, 2017

Shame is a bewildering emotion that indicates you have feelings inside of yourself that imply

  • inadequacy

  • inferiority

  • regret

  • unworthiness

  • dishonour

  • uselessness,

which you may or may not successfully hide from others.

What shame actually does...

July 10, 2017

Bully is a label used to separate and often put you down, however until I find another label I will use what is familiar.

I know a woman who has been a bully, a dreadful bully, and has been bullied - I know her well - very well, for she is me!  

So I get you –...

June 26, 2017

For the past 4 years I have been very aware of the behavior of my little dog Sami at times.

When she first came to us and I would walk her, she was pulling desperately at the lead, there was no enjoyment of walking, there was just a desperate ”getting somewhere” happeni...

June 14, 2017

Neglect comes in many forms - physical, emotional, mental and all have psychological repercussions.  While neglect causes damage and the scars will be carried for life, neglect need not adversely affect you for life.  

We have all been neglected in some way, shape...

May 26, 2017

EVERYTHING in life is about relationships.

We have relationships with people, pets, time, food, money, sports, work, our car, the lawnmower, books, games, movies, music, politics, the land, plants, water – everything we do, touch and interact with in some way creates a...

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